I've written before about Andrew's preference of Dave over me. I had kind of accepted it but my emotions are rising again. A few nights ago, Andrew just about threw himself out of my arms to go to Dave. It hurt but I brushed it off. I just know that he really likes his daddy.
This afternoon was AWFUL. He's having a rough time with constipation so I ran bath water hoping that would help (it did). He wanted nothing to do with the bath. I got him out and he still wouldn't stop crying. I went through everything I could think of and he was still screaming. At one point Dave says to Eric, "I'm going to rescue your brother. I'm sick of listening to this." He picks Andrew up and almost instantly he stops. He's been happy ever since.
What did I ever do? A mother's bond is supposed to be strong with their child. Mine couldn't care less if I was around. I carried him for 9 months, I was at his bedside everyday in the hospital (Dave wasn't!!), I pumped for 6 months to give him the best, I have loved him with all my heart and then some. Where did I go wrong? WHAT DID I DO?!
I wish there were some easy answer. This hurt is rough.
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I really don't think it's anything you did. I really think it sounds like he's reacting to the fact that he's with Dave every day and that's who he's used to being around. My girls prefer me over my husband almost always (but not always) but never want to leave daycare. The one always throws a fit! So I evidently rank above dad but below daycare lady. It cuts like a knife, everytime you hear it. Even though they pick me over my husband 9 times out of 10, the one time they pick him, that hurts! Hurts even more when they scream at me going "I want Miss Abby!" I wish I had an easy answer. I can just say it seems to get better with age, and I'm so, so sorry!
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